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Fight Right

Fight Right

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection

Summary

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Conflict is the number one reason that couples seek help, but world-renowned relationship experts Dr John and Julie Gottman have discovered that, done right, conflict doesn't have to cause damage to our relationships. Not only that, it can be an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love.

Using decades of research, compelling case studies and a new international study, Dr Gottman and Dr Schwartz Gottman prove that even couples who are truly struggling in conflict and have really lost their way are able to recover and find their way back to each other by recognising and taking control of the 5 five fights that we all fall into:

- The Bomb Drop (starting off wrong)
- The Flood (attacking, defending, withdrawing)
- The Shallows (skimming the surface)
- The Standoff (competing to win)
- The Chasm in the Room (stewing about the fight)

For couples in crisis, or those who want to feel more connected, Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favour of a collaborative approach, one that enables us to stay calm, communicate better, and truly understand one another, so that our fights can bring us closer.

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  • Foundational to finding the love that most of us are searching for
    Steven Bartlett, Diary of a CEO podcast

About the authors

John Schwartz Gottman

JOHN GOTTMAN, PHD, is the bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and numerous acclaimed books. His breakthrough work has won him four National Institute of Mental Health Research Science Awards, and he is a frequent guest on national media. He also co-founded the Gottman Institute with his wife, Julie.
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Julie Schwartz Gottman

JULIE SCHWARTZ GOTTMAN, PHD, is an award-winning psychologist, co-creator of the Art and Science of Love weekend workshops, and author or co-author of five books, including Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage.
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