From Crisis to Deeper Commitment

Relate Guide To Staying Together

A self-help book for couples who want to overcome their relationship problems and remain together, from the Relate relationship experts.

the only relationship book you'll ever need

Relate (Author) Relate is a national federated charity with 75 years' experience of supporting the nation’s relationships. 
 
Relate is governed by a Board of Trustees, all of them volunteers, who are deeply committed to realising our vision of a future in which healthy and happy relationships form the heart of a thriving society. Susan Quilliam (Author) Susan Quilliam is a relationships expert with over 35 years' experience in offering support through her work as a writer, coach, trainer, consultant and commentator. Susan works closely with Relate, is an Ambassador for Relate Cambridge and with them has written two books for Vermilion, The Relate Guide to Staying Together - which the Times described as "the only relationship book you'll ever need" and Stop Arguing Start Talking, which is currently Relate's best selling book. She sits on the Advisory Boards of the Sexual Advice Association and Women's Health Concern and is on the Council for Sexuality and Sexual Health for the Royal Society of Medicine. She is also one of the Family Planning Association's designated 21st Century Achievers, UK Dating Expert of the year 2015, and a Patron of the Outsiders charity which campaigns for sexual rights for the less-abled. Susan is an advice columnist for Fabulous magazine as well as broadcasting and presenting internationally on topics surrounding love and sexuality.

Packed with relationship advice from Relate, the marriage guidance experts, Staying Together offers guidelines to help couples survive and grow through their relationship problems so that they need not separate and may maintain their commitment to each other. Case histories, quizzes and questionnaires show how this is possible and even how to make a partnership stronger. The book covers how to: --confront difficulties --understand your partner --re-negotiate an improved relationship --develop skills to make improvements last --assess when problems first appeared and how they developed --face changes --communicate and meet a partner's needs --create good times --build on commitment and happiness.

Susan Quilliam

Here, for once, is a self-help book that is fascinating rather than bossy...Clearly written, sometimes humorous and practical, this book convincingly demonstrates that it is possible to disagree and not fight, to have differences and not lash out.

The 10 Point Plan for Couples in Conflict

For some people, an argument with a loved one is a catastrophe, a sign that a relationship must surely be over, for others a heated discussion is a way of letting off steam, a way of ensuring that passion is kept alive. But what is 'normal' communication for couples? How can you get past the raised voices or silent disapproval, to listen and understand what is really being said by your partner? 
 
Relationships change over time, and the way we communicate does too. This practical, readable and sometimes humorous book, based on over 60 years of cumulative experience from Relate, the marriage guidance experts, will help couples to break free of old patterns of behaviour and avoid using words as weapons when the going gets tough. It will help encourage upfront discussion rather than resorting to nagging, and will give you the skills you need to understand what your partner is really trying to say to you - to bring discussion rather than confrontation back into your relationships.

Susan Quilliam

Praise for Stop Arguing, Start Talking

Here, for once, is a self-help book that is fascinating rather than bossy...Clearly written, sometimes humorous and practical, this book convincingly demonstrates that it is possible to disagree and not fight, to ha ...

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