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How to Be The Grown-Up

How to Be The Grown-Up

Why Good Parenting Starts with You

Summary

INSTANT SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

‘Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, but if it did, it would be this one.’ Myleene Klass


Brilliant … Dr Martha has guidance for almost every sticky moment.’ i Paper

Drawing on her years of experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr Martha understands the questions all parents face:


  • How can I make my child listen to me?
  • How can I stop a tantrum in its tracks?
  • What can I do when my child feels sad?
  • Why is my child a picky eater and what can I do about it?
  • What should I do when I lose my temper?

With humour, boundless energy, wit and warmth, Dr Martha tackles it all; from how to talk about honesty and lies, death, co-parenting, consent, gender, attachment, boundaries, and tantrums, as well as the small but critical daily challenges parents face. She explains why beneath each dilemma, it's the behaviours and scripts we learned as children that shape the parents we become.

This deceptively simple and always empathetic guide is a must-have toolkit for parents or any grown-up interested in what makes a healthy, happy, confident parent and child.

‘Martha is my go-to expert for parenting. This book is full of real-life examples, lived experiences, useful strategies and so much reassurance.’ Charlotte Stirling-Reed, bestselling author of How to Wean Your Baby

Reviews

  • ‘A must-read… written in a supportive, non-judgemental tone which encourages the reader not to give up. I would highly recommend this book to anyone trying to navigate parenthood – through love, patience and dedication.’
    Dr Aziza Sesay @talkswithdrsesay

About the author

Martha Deiros Collado

Dr Martha Deiros Collado is @dr.martha.psychologist. She has created a hugely successful social media platform sharing connection over control in parenting, based on nearly two decades as a clinical psychologist. She has met with thousands of families in therapy over the course of her career working in paediatric medical teams within the NHS.


Over time, her work has changed and adapted, influenced by new scientific developments alongside her learnings from clinical experience she manages to deftly mix scientific knowledge with practical application. Martha has been shaped by an international background, a multi-cultural upbringing and her coming into motherhood.
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