What to do if you’re being bullied

It's not your fault

It doesn’t matter what colour hair you have; what shoes you wear; whether you speak with an accent; how you walk; or where you’re from – it isn’t your fault if you are being bullied. Everyone is different in some way or another, and that’s what makes us amazing and special!

Tell someone – you are not alone

It doesn’t matter who you are – bullying can make anyone feel upset and it’s fine to be hurt by it. The important thing is that you tell someone about it. 

If you feel you can, talk to a teacher you trust or a family member.  If you don’t want to do that you can always call Childline on 0800 1111 or visit their website.

Keep a record

Write down what happened, when it happened, and who was involved.  If you are being bullied online, keep the evidence – save or copy any photos, videos, texts, e-mails or posts.

Don't seek revenge

It can be tempting if you are being bullied to take revenge – for example, to send a horrible message back to someone; to try and embarrass and hurt the other person, or to fight back. This isn’t a good idea – you might end up getting in trouble or getting yourself even more hurt. 

You are in charge of how you respond

Think about other ways you can respond to bullying. For example, practice saying ‘I don’t like it when you say that/do that – stop.' Think about other people who can help you if you are being bullied – this could be other classmates or a teacher.

Spend time with those who truly care

Only spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself. If someone constantly puts you down they are not a real friend/boyfriend/girlfriend, and they are not worth your time!

Be a best friend to yourself

Be kind to yourself, and do things that you enjoy and make you feel good. You might make music; write lyrics; draw cartoons; dance; act or join a sports club.

Show respect and stick up for others

Remember, it’s also important to respect other people too. Just because someone is different from you or your friends doesn’t mean you are better than them or have a right to make them feel bad. If you mess up or make a mistake, make sure you say sorry. You don’t have to be friends with everyone – but you should always make it clear that you don’t like it when people bully others and stick up for people who are having a hard time. It’s important to remember that differences are what make everyone unique, and special.

Visit the Anti-Bullying Alliance’s website for help or support if anything mentioned in this article has affected you. 

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